Can You Live in the Maybe?

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Can You Live in the Maybe?

i have recently become obsessed with a new daily e-mail I have been receiving.
It's called The Daily Love.

really, click on the link above and sign up for their e-mails.  you won't regret it!
anyways, like i am really obsessed.  it's basically free therapy on my browser.  ha.
and we all know i love me some therapy.  ayi.
but seriously with a slogan of "a place to love and be loved" yep, i'm hooked.
and let's face it daily reminders, ah-ha moments, and sometimes a good come to jesus is nice for just about everyone.
the article below was posted today.
let's make it clear this is NOTHING about me wanting to get married anytime soon.  lol.
it's solely about just like it says, can you live in the maybe.
i am SO guilty of not.  i have MAJOR trust issues and a total, "if i want it done i will just do it myself" type of style.  and it's not always the best thing to have.......
honestly my bff has to remind me on the daily to let go and just trust.
i know i know, but let's just say trust hasn't always worked out for me.  and i put up a wall quick when i feel even the slightest bit of trust being broken.
BUT just because a couple of threads on my trust bracelet have shredded, doesn't mean they will all break.  i need to learn to be more "open" and yes, live in the maybe.
here's the article.....

Can you live in the maybe?

When my dad asked my mom to marry him, she didn't say yes or no...she said maybe.
When I think about that, it makes me a little edgy. To think that the person I love said maybe, instead of an immediate yes, puts my ego into an uproar.
What did my dad do? Did he demand that she answer him now and tell her that if she didn't say yes, that she didn't really love him? Nope.
My Dad said, "Cool, well I'll give you 10 years to think about it..." And that was that; he let it go.
Then, two weeks later my mom said yes and they've been happily married for 34 years.
I credit this partly because of the major act of selfless trust that my father placed onto my mom without any pressure. There is a lot to be learned from this act of trust.
I know if it had been me, I don't know if I could have kept my cool. I would have wanted an immediate answer. I mean, my emotions and heart are on the line; you don’t mess with those! But instead of being demanding and selfish, my dad let go and trusted the outcome.
How many of us can do that in life? Instead of demanding what we want and wanting it now, can we ask The Uni-verse for what we want, and then let go? Can we rest in the peace of the moment knowing we are provided for and that the perfect thing, which is probably better than what we asked for in the first place, will show up?
Do we really have the faith to live the maybe? Or better put, can we see that the delays of The Uni-verse are not Its denials? Can we let go and let things unfold naturally?
The Truth is that the perfect outcome will happen. My mom told my father yes; but if she had said no, he would have gotten the Truth and been able to move on to find a woman who loved him and could go the distance.
Ask for the emotional sobriety and peace of mind to be okay living the maybes. Get comfortable in the in-between. Know that delays are not denials and have fun in the moment, in the mean time, as it evolves into an ever better version of reality.

Do you have what it takes to live the maybe today?


Amanda aka Manda said...

I love the message in this post! Thanks for sharing!

Shannon Snodgrass said...

Hi, my name is Shannon.... I'm so NOT a maybe person! I don't know if I can even change that. I try to be aware of it but....! When I ask a question and I get a "maybe", it makes me impatient and I immediately respond, "it's a yes or no answer, please give me one or the other." I am VERY VERY much "if I want it done, I'll do it myself" and it has caused issues. "Letting it go" is extremely hard for me and something I work on daily. It's not always easy. Seriously, it's difficult.

Bottom line, I need to trust, let it go and just relax. Easier said than done!! Whew... I need help!!! :-)

Cassie said...

shannon - i'm right with you sister. RIGHT with you.